Why is this something we ALL face?

Fear is something we all face because it is the very thing that challenges our ability to grow, to expand, and to fully LIVE. Without fear, we wouldn’t know about the places within ourselves that we are still unwilling to take a look at.

Do you understand what I am saying here?

When we are afraid of something, usually, at the core or the ROOT of the fear, is the belief that something outside of us has more power than we do. At the deepest seat in the fear, sits the part of us who is afraid that something dark can take us down, can take away our joy, and can ultimately end our life.

What is your current response to fear? Do you face into it, or do you skate around it? Do you suit up and show up with the willingness to take it on, or do you run from it? Are you the type of person who knows they cannot escape their fears, or do you actually believe you can ignore it until it goes away? Do you believe you are strong enough to handle anything, or do you reach for a false sense of security and numb out your fears with food, alcohol, shopping, smoking, sex, drugs, or too much exercise so you can pretend for short periods of time that you are actually doing something about improving your current circumstances?

These questions may feel confronting, and if so, I do not apologise. These are the same questions I have to ask myself sometimes as well. I do it because I love you and I love me.

It seems easier a lot of the time, to ignore, avoid, pretend, deny, run, move, etc, but let’s face it. The truth is, when we do these things instead of facing into our fears, the problems only get worse.

Recently I was going through something that felt so scary to me, that the mere thought of it made me feel sick, as though I was coming down with some awful virus. What was happening to me was my fear of this thing in particular was making me unwell. My thoughts were making me sick! What this turned out to be for me was a profound opportunity to take a look at some things inside of myself, inside of my thoughts, beliefs, and patterns, that I had decided long ago were “off-limits.” My head had created all these stories about certain feelings I had buried inside of me, and as a result, there was a pattern, a program that was running in my consciousness that had me living smaller than I am capable of living. This program was holding me hostage to the belief that I was not strong enough to face the “darkness” inside of me, and if I tried I would surely DIE.

I was being held hostage to the belief that “darkness” is an evil power that exists, and that the darkness was stronger and more powerful than the light.

Do you know what is the scariest thing about all of this?

When we actually buy into the voice that tells us we will die unless we keep ourselves from re-visiting those “off-limits” places, then we fall victim to the VERY thing we are afraid of. This is because the fear itself never gets dealt with, and therefore, it lives in our bodies. When fear lives inside of us, it affects us on an energetic level. Literally, we begin to vibrate with it. Since the Universe responds to our vibration, or our frequency, which is created by our thoughts and feelings, then the Universe will begin to deliver to us everything that matches our thoughts and feelings. So everything that matches your fear, is exactly what you will get.

This is WAAAAAAAAY worse than facing into the fear itself. That’s the craziest part! We don’t deal with stuff because we are afraid, and as a result we create and manifest a life of stuff that we are most afraid of instead of enjoying a life filled with peace, joy, abundance, and optimal health.

Does this make sense?

I am serious. Facing your fear is NOT as scary as you think! Not facing them will ALWAYS be much scarier in the end.

Here are 5 tips to help you face your fears and take your personal power back:

1) Acknowledge your fear FULLY.

Ex) I am afraid I am dying. Then silently repeat 4 times “I call all my energy back into my body now.” Feel your energy come back into your body.

2) Declare your willingness to face your fears.

You ARE strong enough to handle anything and everything happening right now. KNOW THIS. Then, connect with the light in your heart and speak to your fear by saying “I am willing to take a look at this you fully. I am willing to take you on. I know that I am strong enough to handle anything, so bring it on”

3) See yourself healthy, happy, joyful, powerful, and FEEL your connection to the energy source of the Universe.

FEEL your own strength, your own power, your own infinite source within that cannot and will not EVER die, no matter what things may look like.

4) Connect with nature.

Go somewhere beautiful such as to the ocean’s edge, a flower garden, or something equal. Observe nature. Feel the ocean’s playfulness as the water rushes in to touch your feet, excited to see you, and then rushes back out encouraging you to chase it. Watch the birds flip and fly, enjoying every moment without a doubt that they can do everything a bird is meant to do. Observe the flowers and contemplate their natural and organic way of growing without questioning themselves.

All the answers we need can be found somewhere in nature.

5) Think back about a time when you thought you would die if you faced something or tried something, but actually made it through.

Perhaps you even thrived afterwards. Remember how afraid you were, but how liberating it was to release the fear by facing it. Once you faced it you could finally stop LIVING IT.

Now do it again. Face your fear. Go for it. You ARE capable. You CAN do it. You WILL understand more later…count on that.

So let’s dedicate today to facing our fears shall we?

I invite you to take one fear that you have been avoiding, and write it down right now. Then go through steps 1-5 as best you can. Remember, the fear is not what we should be afraid of, rather it’s the unwillingness to allow the fears to transform us that we should be scared of. Fear coupled with our willingness to face it and our belief that we are strong enough to handle anything, no longer feels like fear. It becomes an opportunity we feel privileged to have. Fear left unattended to, becomes our living experience.

What’s it gonna be for you? Are you going to be a warrior, or a runner?

Please email us at transform@erinlanahanmethod.com with any questions or comments and let us know what you are going through!

In the meantime, face your fears, be the amazing warrior you really are, and know that you are loved and protected.

Sending you all so much love, light, and many big hugs!

xoxo Erin

Want to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready for change, serious about investing in yourself, and ready to work with a coach, send an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. Personal Growth Mentoring Program is an intense and highly effective way to release your mental, physical, and emotional blocks so you can finally live your dreams. It’s an investment in your health and happiness. Serious inquiries only.

Today I am here to talk to you guys about TRUST. What exactly is it and how do we do it?

Well, in my experience trust is something we must access within ourselves. It’s an inner awareness. Trust is something that happens more and more as we ALLOW it to. Trust is what happens as we let go of “our” plans and schedules and begin to surrender to a greater plan unfolding.

For example, there are many ways we experience new levels of trust. When my clients are working out, there are certain moves and exercises that I’ll ask them to do that they are afraid of at first. Their belief is that the cannot do it. They are afraid of falling, getting, hurt, and/or looking silly. They are very defined by and attached to the image and limitations they have set for themselves, or that they have accepted as their truth from the limitations others put on them.

This is precisely when I remind them that they must be willing to get uncomfortable, to feel uncertain, and to look silly and mess up if they want to move forward, expand, grow, and reach new levels of health, success, happiness, and wellness.

This opportunity is their time to explore what exists beyond their so-called limitations, in a safe place with me, so they can see that they actually have a choice and can choose to play a bigger game.

Most of the time, my clients’ desires to reach optimal health, happiness, fitness, and well-being outweigh their attachment to playing small in their workouts, and ultimately in their lives. As a result, they bust loose from their old beliefs and programs and embody something more powerful.

When I am coaching, often I have clients who are very afraid to detach from a strict schedule and the time pressures they put on themselves. These are typically my entrepreneurs and business owners. They get a certain amount of success by pushing hard and working almost 20 hours a day, but then as they begin to burnout, they suffer with finding a solution.

This is precisely when I remind them that they must be willing to let go of outcomes and results in order to experience the fruits of all their labor. There is a time to push and a time to receive. We will all be pulled to push, but when we are no longer pulled to push so hard, we must TRUST this gut feeling and shift our energy and speed into rest, receiving, and nurturing mode. We must always be willing to allow our intuition to guide us at all times. As we surrender, we give the Universe an opening to deliver and provide.

Does any of this sound familiar?

I can only say these things to my clients because I am not afraid to admit that I do it too. I also sometimes forget the power and importance of letting go and TRUSTING. It is perfectly OK to forget, just as long as you remember.

Life is a process of remembering that trust IS the process. Trust IS the WAY!

We are always in a process of peeling back layers, facing more fear, attaching to outcomes, results, and routines, and then having to let go and allow ourselves to experience trust on a deeper level each time around in the name of less suffering and more peace and joy.

I have been working in my industry of health, wellness, and personal growth for over 12 years. Some may consider me an expert, but I know that I am only a student. We are all always students, but in our learning, we teach. As we apply the information that is revealed to us along our own process of trusting, it becomes the way in which we see the world and the way we show up in the world. THIS teaches others that they too can do the same.

As many of you already know, I have been nurturing my relationship with the practice of Yoga. This has been an extremely humbling experience, but one I admire, respect, and feel deep gratitude for. Yoga is making me face so many of my own so-called “limitations” and it gives me no choice but to begin questioning and venturing passed them. Meanwhile, all my beliefs about fitness, exercise, the way the body works, diet, etc, are being challenged. These are quickly becoming old beliefs, as I embody new ones, and this process requires massive letting go and allowing the experience of trust to soothe my fears.

For example, I use to think you had to train 5-6 days a weeks with hard cardio and weights. I use to think you had to eat 6 times a day, every 2-3 hours, high protein and low carbs.  I use to think if I beat myself up for “cheating” on my diet, that it would actually be effective.  I use to believe food and my body were my enemy, and if  I could just become disciplined enough to control them better, I would finally be happy and feel good. I use to believe these were the things that made up the formula for a happy and peaceful life, and a fit and healthy body. Well, this may have been the case for a period in my life, but it stopped working. It was NOT sustainable. It was time for me to let go.

Now I know that way of life was just a phase in my evolution of health, fitness, happiness, and wealth.

Ultimately, or hopefully anyway, we move past each phase, and embrace a deeper, more authentic understanding of what it means to live a life of health, wellness, success, peace, joy, beauty, abundance, and love. This is a never-ending process. It will always continue to deepen, to offer us new insight and wisdom, to heal and transform us, and to humble and strengthen us.

If we can ALLOW this process of  TRUST to continue to unfold, life gets easier, work flows better, instead of chasing down opportunities, we begin attracting them TO us, and rather than having a separation between us and our bodies, we find a loving bond and connection with our physical bodies that begins to drive all our choices and actions, and therefore health, well-being, success, abundance, peace, and joy become our way of life.

So, what are you clinging onto so tightly that may be preventing you from experiencing more trust? Can you begin to surrender your plans and desired outcomes, in order to receive what the Universe has in store for you? Perhaps you can let go just a little bit, allowing the trust within you to emerge and gain a little more power, so you will grow to be able to let go completely and therefore fully experience freedom, peace, health, wellness, abundance, and success in all phases of your evolution.

What’s going on for you? I’d love to know. Send an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com to share your story, questions, or comments.

Sending You All SO Much Love and Many Hugs,

Erin xo

Want to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready for change, serious about investing in yourself, and ready to work with a coach, send an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. Personal Growth Mentoring Program is an intense and highly effective way to release your mental, physical, and emotional blocks so you can finally live your dreams. It’s an investment in your health and happiness. Serious inquiries only.

Over the last few months of my life I have had to revisit some places within myself and some experiences from the past, that I liked to believe were in the past and would stay in the past. Well I guess it doesn’t always work that way.

Each of us are on our own unique, individual path and that means we each will have our own unique lessons to learn along the way. You may be able to relate to this. Have you ever felt like you were repeating an experience of something you’ve been through before, that you thought was over and gone, only to find yourself facing it yet again? It may look a little different, have different people taking part in it, but it’s the same old pattern? Do you find yourself saying “What the hell…I thought I had gotten past this?”

This is not something to feel ashamed of, guilty over, or to judge yourself for. NO. It is an opportunity to explore the same thing with more consciousness than you had before.

See the truth is, you HAVE gotten past it in a way. It’s just that sometimes there are onion experiences and they come with many different layers for us to process and peel back. Every time we “re-visit” these circumstances, experiences, and relationships, we are actually visiting a new piece of ourselves and bringing new information, or light, to it. Each layer has its own way of bringing tears and cleansing us.

When we explore things with more consciousness, it means we bring everything we NOW know, to an experience we had in the past when we didn’t have the same tools or level of consciousness.

In other words, we go back to something we didn’t have the tools to fully resolve in the past, with the tools we need to fully resolve it now. Sometimes this take MULTIPLE re-visits!

Does that make sense?

The challenge is NOT to feel bad about yourself in the process. There is a tendency to judge yourself when this happens, and that is exactly what will make it impossible to heal and resolve the past with your new tools and awareness in the present.  If you are revisiting something, it’s because there was probably judgment in the past that made it impossible for you to fully release yourself from the negative pattern, and therefore you have come back to visit it so you can do it differently this time. Therefore, MAKE SURE YOU DO IT DIFFERENTLY.

If you are judging yourself, comparing yourself and your life to others, or falling into victim or self-pity mode, then your EGO is the one running the show.

Check your ego right now because you are worth it!

Your path is just your path and suffering does not come from what is actually happening. No, suffering is a result of your judgments and perceptions about what is happening.

For me, I watch my thoughts, behaviors, actions, words, and although I am not always perfect and still do and say things that are out of alignment with who I really am sometimes, more and more I learn to love myself through it all.

Remind yourself that it is unnecessary and counterproductive to feel judgment, shame, or regret when you are just doing the best you can in the moment. Those feelings just make things harder and they feed the negative pattern.

As long as you are willing to do things differently each time around, and feel differently about what is currently showing up, then your life will begin to take on a new, positive pattern, and a beautiful shape that represents who you really are.

Bow down to the teacher in all things, and allow life to humble you, so that your higher self can begin to run the show. Live your legend, because it’s yours, and no one else can live the same one as you.

Humility is where our agendas get tossed out in order to receive the teachings life brings to us through our circumstances and experiences. Humility is the key to growth, intimacy, true connection, giving love and letting love in, and humility will bring peace into the mind and the body.

When we have humility, we no longer perceive ourselves and our lives through eyes that judge, but instead we appreciate every single moment for exactly what it is and the wisdom in it’s offering.

So how can you release yourself from your ego driven fears and worries today? What might you be revisiting that feels old, that you can bring your new wisdom and consciousness too in order to heal and resolve things within you and all around you even more? Please share your story, questions, and comments with me here, or email me at transform@erinlanahanmethod.com.

If you’d like to experience more Peace, Love, and YOUR Perfect Body, please register for my FREE call, “Peace, Love, and YOUR Perfect Body,” coming up this Friday April 20 @7pm U.S. EST/ Saturday April 21 @9am Brisbane, QLD time! Find out more and Register HERE.

Also, a little treat for Gold Coast and Brisbane locals! I am doing a 4 week Yoga + Meditation course called “Return To YOU,” starting Sunday May 6 – Sunday May 27 right here in Palm Beach, QLD. It is going to be amazing and I am so excited to share this with as many of you as possible! Find out more and Register HERE.

Love and Light!

Namaste,

Erin

Want to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready for change, serious about investing in yourself, and ready to work with a coach, send an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. Personal Growth Mentoring Program is an intense and highly effective way to release your mental, physical, and emotional blocks so you can finally live your dreams. It’s an investment in your health and happiness. Serious inquiries only.

As I sit here today and ponder this topic,  I ask for the guidance I need to deliver this message to you in the way it has been delivered to me. This is a message I am always excited to share, and  I have been asked by thousands of people over the years, how I have achieved the level of peace, love, vitality, and fitness I experience every single day.

Peace, Love, and YOUR Perfect Body.

First of all, let me begin by making sure we are clear about a few things. When I say “YOUR Perfect Body” this means that I am about to help you begin to really find true appreciation for YOUR body, the way it is RIGHT NOW.

We all are born with different body types, and we are MEANT to look and be different in our own unique ways. I like to think of this like trees. Trees are all different heights, widths, colors, and shapes, and their differences are what make up amazing, interesting, and beautiful landscapes. We would get bored if they all looked the same yes?

It’s the same with us, only we forget to look at ourselves through a bigger picture pair of eyes. Each one of us plays an important role, an important part in the overall landscape of life, and therefore the ways in which we may be shorter, taller, thicker, or thinner, is a result of who we are and what we’ve come here to do. These are the characteristics that we should love and adore, not hate.

This is not an excuse to be unhealthy however. No way. This is simply to understand the importance of accepting the body type, height, and shape you were born with. Accept what it is, and then make a conscious choice to be the healthiest, happiest, hottest version of yourself from the inside out!

For example, I am 5’3, and bit of the thicker, more muscular build. I have big brown eyes, blonde hair that never grows longer than my shoulder blades, and my calves have been big since I was a toddler!

I will NEVER be 5’10 with long , thick dark hair, have blue eyes, long thin legs, or calves that can fit in the really sexy knee-high boots that don’t have a zipper. That’s just the way it is for me. It’s not good, it’s not bad. It just is. Now I could kick a fit and feel as though I got short-handed and resent the fact that I am too short, muscular, and not exotic enough to look like the fashion models, or the new girl an ex is dating. But at the end of the day, will that really enhance my life experience? Will it change things? Or will it just create less peace, less love, and an experience of living in a body I will always see as IMPERFECT?

Do you see where I am going with this?

Love, Peace, and feeling grateful and happy about your body does not come as a result of achieving the perfect body first.

NO. You must first achieve Peace and Love within you, and therefore be experiencing it all around you, if you expect to truly experience what it feels like to live inside YOUR perfect body.

Are you with me?

Let me tell you about a little spell that most of us have fallen asleep under. It’s the spell that curses you to believe that happiness, love, peace, and a fit and sexy body come from something outside of yourself. For anyone who has ever achieved a “perfect body” as a result of reaching outside themselves, will tell you this:

Either the physical results don’t last, or the happiness from the results don’t last, or BOTH.

Trust me. I have been a 4-time all around Figure Champion and a 6-time all around Fitness Champion, and was well on my way to becoming a successfully and professionally sponsored fitness model. However, I chose to take a different road and thank God I did. I was lucky, and realized pretty early on in my budding career as a fitness star, that the life and the body I was living in, was NOT going to provide me with sustainable health, happiness, or hotness.

In fact, that way of living, thinking, and being was going to age me, depress me, AND lead me away from who I was born to be.

I didn’t realize ALL of that then, but I had enough trust in my intuition to follow something in my gut that just didn’t feel right about the path I was on. Today I fully understand what my body was telling me back then. It was telling me I was UNHAPPY.

Throughout my entire life up until that point, I had used every bit of my energy to please others, to get the attention I believed I needed to feel good enough, and to come in first prize so the world had no reason to ignore or disrespect me. However, the problem wasn’t the world.

IT WAS ME.

I didn’t love myself. I didn’t pay attention to, or respect me, and this projected from inside of me onto my outside world experience, and thus it was exactly what I began to look for from things outside myself.

Now I am not saying there is anything wrong with getting acknowledged, loved, and appreciated by others. These are good things to experience, they feel amazing, and they can definitely be a form of support throughout our lives. However, no one else’s love, attention, and respect will ever have the power to take away our happiness or grant us happiness. Only the way in which we treat ourselves has the power to do that.

Man. These are lessons I sure have learned the hard way, but I  tell you what, I wouldn’t take back any of it because I am so grateful to know what I know now!

I love the way I feel in my body, in my relationships, in my career, and in my life, and YOU CAN TOO!

Until I saw that having a perfect body didn’t actually give me long-term fulfilment, and therefore Love and Peace were not going to come as a result either, I didn’t know that I had it all backwards.

YEP…I HAD IT BACKWARDS!

It’s NOT:

YOUR Perfect Body, Love, and Peace.

NO…

It IS:

Peace, Love, and YOUR Perfect Body.

The order of the words in the title of this message are that way FOR A REASON. Their order IS THE MESSAGE I am delivering to you today.

We must find peace, access love, and when we do these things, we get to live in our Perfect Body.

Are you feeling how I felt when this message first penetrated my consciousness? I hope so because I have some very exciting news!

I am going to be doing a FREE call for one hour just on this topic.

This is what you’ll get if you join us on the call:

1) I am going to be sharing  3 of the my most favorite tools to help you:

- shift from anxiety, dissapointment, and irritability, to a peaceful place within

- to feel more love and respect for yourself and therefore others

- to connect to the vision you have for YOUR perfect body

2) I am going to be answering as many as 3 questions at the end for some one-on-one coaching that everyone on the call will get to benefit from.

3)  3 days after the LIVE call with me, you will be receiving a recording of the call that will be sent to your email. This way you can listen to it as much as you want, and if you happen to miss the actual call, you can listen to it later!

So, are you going to meet me on the call?

When:

Friday April 20, 201 at 7pm EST (United States) which is the same as Saturday April 21, 2012 at 9am (Brisbane, Australia time). I am in Australia, but this call is open to almost anyone in the world.

Please click on the link below for all the information you need about the call and so you can register. You will find all the Dial-In details you need for your country by clicking on this link below.

http://peaceloveyourperfectbody.eventbrite.com/

Hurry hurry! spaces are limited and it will fill up fast

Sending you all SO much LOVE and LIGHT!

xoxoxoxo,

Erin

Want to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready for change, serious about investing in yourself, and ready to work with a coach, send an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. Personal Growth Mentoring Program is an intense and highly effective way to release your mental, physical, and emotional blocks so you can finally live your dreams. It’s an investment in your health and happiness. Serious inquiries only.

As I was running this morning, with the ocean beside me and my feet hitting the sand one step at  time, I began to write this post in my head. Inspiration always happens to me when I run!

Lately I have been contemplating birth, babies, what that means to me, and how I feel about all of it. I am 32 years old, so from what I hear, it’s only natural that I would be thinking about this stuff. Apparently it’s my “Biological Clock ticking.”

Maybe it is, or maybe it’s just me, doing what I always do, which is taking what Mother Nature gives us, and breaking it down into daily life lessons, and then finding the tools that are available to apply such lessons into my own life and eventually sharing them with my clients so they too can apply them to their lives.

Who knows. I guess it depends on who you ask

I do want to talk to you today however, about this concept of birth. It does fascinate me. I will admit, I often find questions bubbling up inside me that ask me things like “Erin, if you were to be growing a life within you, what would you do differently.” Or, “If you knew you were going to start trying to get pregnant, what might that require of your thoughts, your actions, and your daily habits, and how might you be able to nurture that possibility into reality?”

I have also noticed myself thinking of my body in a different way when I think about it as something capable of growing and expressing the miracle of life. Instead of being judgemental or harsh towards myself and expecting my body to be perfect all the time, I have begun to see my body as a vessel, or a channel that life wants to grow inside of and ultimately to be expressed through.

I can’t help but wonder, and MEN this applies to you too, if we all walked around treating our dreams, our intuition, our desires, and our ideas, as though they were our unborn children, would we finally begin to understand the importance of creating an internal environment that is capable of growing life inside of us, that when nurtured by us, has the power to go from a tiny seed within, to a beautiful new life we birth into the external world?

Do you understand what I am saying? It is a known fact that what a mother-to-be thinks about, the actions she takes or doesn’t take, the amount and type of exercise she does, the relationships she chooses to have and engage in, the foods and drinks she consumes, and the environments she surrounds herself in, plays a vital role in whether or not she can get pregnant from the start and then once she does, it plays a vital role in the overall optimal health and well-being of the baby growing inside of her. It CAN determine the quality of the life she is growing and giving birth to.

Why would this be any different for birthing an idea, a vision, and a dream into reality?  IT’S NOT! It’s exactly the same and if we explore this idea, then it may increase our chances of actually giving birth to the gifts that want to come through us.

Whether or not you want children, have children, don’t want children, don’t have children, is irrelevant to the point I am making. My point is this:
Every single one of us, male, female, gay, straight, black, yellow, green, white, have the opportunity to be born and to give birth on a daily basis. Every time we wake up in the morning we are starting over and therefore being born. Every time we go through a huge transitional and transformational time in our lives we are being born. Every time we get our hearts broken and we come through the other side of it and heal, we experience a sense of being birthed into a deeper awareness and understanding of who we really are and what we are really capable of.

Every single one of us has ideas, we have dreams, we feel a longing to love and be loved, we want to experience intimacy and deep connection, and we all hope that we die with no regrets. We all hope that we are one of those people who feel as though we really LIVED every opportunity that presented itself to us.

Every time we feel inspired by something, that IS an opportunity presenting itself to us.

Here’s the mistake most people make. They cling on to a result and they end up cutting themselves OFF from growing life within them, and therefore birthing it into the world. You even hear about this with women who really want to have a baby. They try so hard and become almost obsessed with it, that it doesn’t end up happening for them. Then, when they finally let go, they get pregnant! It’s truly amazing how much wisdom this mother birthing baby analogy is offering us.

Whatever it is you are wanting in your life requires the same thing. If you want to feel comfortable in your own skin, if you want to grow a business, if you want to find true love, if you want to write a book, if you want to travel the world, it requires you to treat yourself as the vessel that is being chosen by the things you feel drawn to. We are not all drawn or attracted to the same things. When you feel that pull, you know that a mutual choice has been made. That thing has chosen you, and you have chosen it. However, I want to invite you to think of it like this. Rather than attaching yourself to the thing itself or to a specific outcome with it, instead explore what it needs you to become in order for you to create an environment within yourself, conducive enough to growing life within you and to giving birth to life.

For example, I was really drawn to a guy that I met a few years back and it was definitely mutual. I thought that meant it was because we were destined to be together. We were in a way, just not how I thought. This guy and I ended up going through a lot of life changing events together, and I had to take some serious inventory of myself, my thoughts, my beliefs, and my actions as a result of this relationships. As a result of his presence in my life, I became aware of how much I wanted to experience true soulmate-love. I was not ready for that then because the insides of me were not conducive to growing life or giving birth to any great quality of life.

However, it was the very event in my life that woke me up in many ways and showed me what I needed to do for myself in order to be born into a grater sense of joy and connection as well as to birth into the world all the inner gifts I had previously been aware of, but unable to access and express.

EVERY single moment is an opportunity for every single one of us to be born and to give birth. We can start over with every thought we have, we have the power to change the way we see things and go from an abusive, harsh mindset, to one that is non-judging and unconditionally loving. We are the ones that must decide to build our lives on a foundation that is motivated by the intention to be nurturing and nourishing so the soul can continue to grow within us, and that new life can flow through us at all times. We are all, men too, pregnant with possibilities. The ways in which we treat ourselves on a daily basis will determine whether or not we cut ourselves off from experiencing the life force within us and the potential we have to express such possibilities into the world through our very own bodies.

So remember this analogy. Being born is not easy, nor is giving birth. Both experiences can be painful, scary, and full of the unknown. However, when it’s mother birthing baby, we are all amazed by that miracle and we embrace the pain, the discomfort, and the unknown. Therefore, I invite you today to do the same for all the life that wants to grow within you and to be expressed by you. Whether it’s a child, an idea, or a dream, you are the vessels it needs to grow from the unseen world into the seen one

What are your ideas, your dreams, and what is the vision you have for your life? If you are going to birth these unborn gifts into the world, how might you need to rearrange things inside of you and all around you, in order to breathe life into them? Choose your thoughts, your food, your drinks, your friends, your actions, and your environments wisely, for they WLL determine the quality of life within you and the quality of life you are able to share with the world.

Sending you all so much LOVE,
Erin xoxo

Want to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready for change, serious about investing in yourself, and ready to work with a coach, send an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. Personal Growth Mentoring Program is an intense and highly effective way to release your mental, physical, and emotional blocks so you can finally live your dreams. It’s an investment in your health and happiness. Serious inquiries only.

How do we know that we can fully believe things are working out for us? How is it possible to trust that if we follow our hearts, we will be guided towards living the life of our dreams? What if we are wrong? What if we believe and think positive and we still never get what we want?

Are these questions you ask yourself or others at times? If you answered yes, I hope you will keep reading.

First of all, how can you know fully if  things AREN’T working out for you? Is it possible to not trust your heart or follow its guidance, and to still create the life of your dreams? What if you are RIGHT about that idea or new way of doing things? If you don’t believe and think positively, what are the chances of getting what you want?

Yes, I did just ask you all the same questions in reverse. I did this to help lead you to your own answers, your own intuition about what actually feels right inside of YOU regarding how you choose to think, feel, and what beliefs you choose to keep or toss.

This is because YOU are the one who decides what the answers are to these questions.

How does that make you feel, to know you have this kind of power?

I talk to you guys a lot about letting go of outcomes, about practicing the art of detachment, and having the courage to set your intentions and declare your desires whilst surrendering the results to the Universe. This is the way of Happiness. This is the way of Inner Peace. This requires discipline.

We all have an inner guide, a voice that summons us to listen, to take its directions, and to answer it’s calling for us.

Some of us rise to the challenge, and others of us do not. It is not my place to say that one is wrong or one is right. At the end of the day, whatever you choose, is just what you choose. What you do with it will make the difference between feeling good or feeling bad.

Most of us walk around judging ourselves and others, doubting the unlimited possibilities we all have, and feeling uncertain about what we really want and how we will ever truly feel at peace, happy, and fulfilled inside.

We set goals. We achieve them. But still, eventually we return to that empty place inside that either says “I must have more of that thing that temporarily makes me feel good.” OR “There has got to be a better way.”

YES, there IS a better way…a new kind of discipline!

Being in the fitness industry for so long, and beginning my journey as a dedicated gymnast, DISCIPLINE is a word that entered my vocabulary at a very young age. That said, it has become a topic I have spent nearly a lifetime contemplating.

One definition of DISCIPLINE I found is this:

Training expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior, especially training that produces moral or mental improvement.

Discipline is derived from the word DISCIPLE.

DISCIPLE means:

 Learner, follower, or Truth Seeker.

I have found over the years, that my once understanding of discipline has evolved into something very different these days.

If discipline is something that is supposed to help us gain mental and moral improvement, and as a disciple we are seeking to know the truth, then Discipline is the commitment to apply whatever tools, take whatever actions, and do whatever it takes to grow and evolve mentally and morally so that we come to know our truth.

Let’s look at exercise for example. I use to think discipline meant I had to show up 6 days a week and stick exactly to the routine I had set out for my gym workouts. I had become extremely attached to results. However, the results I wanted were to feel good about who I was, feel comfortable and confident in my own skin and body, and experience a deeper sense of love, connection, expression, and inspiration. I believed that by having a six-pack, I would achieve all of these things. Having a six-pack and becoming a 7-time Champion Fitness and Figure Competitor, DID help me feel all those things.

But not forever.

My misunderstanding of what discipline meant, and my attachment to  how I perceived happiness, eventually landed me in a not so happy, not very connected or inspired, and an extremely inauthentic, non-expressive place within myself. Now I am not saying it isn’t fun to have a six-pack. I am just saying that the happiness it brings us is extremely external and short-lived.

Long term happiness and inner peace is an INSDE JOB.

Discipline is actually meant to create flexibility in our lives. It’s like martial arts, the purpose behind learning to fight, is so to NEVER HAVE TO FIGHT. As it’s students show up for their practice each day, they work through the mental and emotional triggers that attract violence and unrest into their lives to begin with. Their practice extends beyond the physical practice itself. It begins to become a working part of their minds, their Spirits, and their lives.

Many people may think the point of martial arts is to become an awesome fighter so they can kick lots of butt…BUT the whole point is to find more peace, and to live a life of non-violence.

We all need structure as we begin to learn about discipline, but I want to plant a seed for you.

Being disciplined means you are committed to your internal growth number one, and whatever physical activities you do, are meant for both physical AND mental awareness, strength, and growth.

All of those questions I asked you above, require DISCPLINE.

If we choose to follow our hearts, because we choose to believe in ourselves and in the power of listening to the voice within rather than to to others, we will HAVE to be disciplined. Every time a seductive thought emerges tempting us to abandon the truth we seek, we must use our discipline to make a conscious decision to stay on our path and recommit to our deepest calling and what we feel is right. To follow our hearts is the way of a warrior. It takes courage and it requires strength.

When you begin to doubt yourself or your intuition, and you find yourself asking once again, “What if I am wrong?” What if I never get there?” What if everyone else knows something I don’t know” THIS is where you MUST stay disciplined. You must be a disciple seeking YOUR truth and no one else’s.

Here Are 3 Ways To Apply A New Discipline:

1) Check in with yourself, LISTEN, and TRUST.

Is your body and Spirit asking for a run, a meditation, a yoga session, a hardcore weight training session, a sleep in, a journaling session, a brainstorming session, etc? You must have the willingness to go within and the discipline is you being brutally honest with yourself about what will serve your highest good-by listening to your inner guide that is telling you what is best. Then, the discipline is applied by taking and choosing to trust the direction you receive and doing what your inner guide says to do, no matter what your monkey mind is saying!

2)  Every time you become aware of feeling bad, apply your discipline by tuning into your thoughts in that moment, and shifting yourself. 

What are you thinking? What stories are you telling yourself? Are you beating yourself up and choosing thoughts that are free-loading on your peace and joy? Apply your discipline by observing these thoughts, by contemplating them. As you become aware of them, you bring them into the light. Begin to shift them by connecting to what you REALLY want. Do you want to feel a deep sense of love and connection? Do you want to feel fully expressed in the world by living on purpose and sharing your passion? Do you want to just enjoy the conversation or meal you are having in that moment? Remember what you want, notice that your thoughts aren’t supporting what you want. Now have the discipline to change them! If you are unsure of how to change them, just repeat this internally several times:

“I am willing to see this differently. I am willing to feel differently right now. I am willing to shift and change my thinking.  I am open and ready to receive guidance in this moment.”

3) When you find yourself judging yourself or someone else, gently bring yourself back to the person you want to be.

This requires DISCPLINE in the beginning because it will feel constant at first. Be willing to show up for your yoga, your workouts, your friends and family, not perfect. Simply commit to the practice of exploring your mind, your body, and your life. Commit to trial and error. Commit to loving yourself through all of it. And commit to creating the highest expression of who you are in every moment. Apply your discipline every time you are not doing this. Just become aware and consciously observe and make a different choice.

Ok I hope you will come to know and appreciate a new kind of discipline. As we become disciplined in this way, we are able to experience greater health, greater consistency in all things, more balance, inspired creativity, a deeper sense of connection, compassion, and love for ourselves and others, and as a result, our awesome lives and selves begin to blossom and unfold before our very eyes!

Here’s to a new kind of discipline! Sending you all so much Energy, Love, and Magnificence!!

 Hugs!

 Erin

Want to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready for change, serious about investing in yourself, and ready to work with a coach, send me an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. Personal Growth Mentoring Program is an intense and highly effective way to release your mental, physical, and emotional blocks so you can finally live your dreams. It’s an investment in your health and happiness. Serious inquiries only.

WHOA! It has been a little while since I have written to you all. My apologies for my absence. However, it is just something I have to do sometimes. Do you know what I mean?

Sometimes we go through things in life, and it is very important to turn within and to allow ourselves the time, space, and the silence we need to nurture ourselves through the growth and the transformations we go through.

I want to be completely honest with all of you because I totally believe in the POWER of opening up and sharing with others what we go through on a daily basis. This last transition from Melbourne to the Gold Coast of Australia has been extremely challenging for me. I arrived here in January just after having met an amazing guy who I was super excited about having in my life. Due to him living in Singapore, we broke things off after a couple of months. I was gutted. My heart ached and my body felt like I was moving through mud! Have you ever felt this way?

When this relationship didn’t work out, I found myself confronted by many things on many levels.

 All my insecurities, self-doubt, fears, and limiting beliefs and thought patterns, began to emerge from the depths of my consciousness.

I had NO IDEA that I was still holding onto so much baggage that was not ultimately supporting or serving my highest good and purpose.

You see, when this happens to us, and we get slammed with our fears, insecurities, doubts, and our deep limiting core beliefs, this is a good thing! I know you may think I am crazy for saying that, but I am SERIOUS.

The only way we can continue to expand and really begin to claim our unlimited POWER back and become the creators of our own lives, is to become AWARE of everything that is currently holding us back from it.

I want you to take a moment and think about a relationship that didn’t work out, or a job you didn’t get, or something that you hoped would go a certain way, that failed your hopes, dreams, and expectations. Do you remember how you felt? Did you find that all of a sudden you were in a place of questioning and doubting everything that you felt so sure about the just day before?

This is what we do.

When one thing or two or three things seem to fail us, we begin to internalize failure and slowly but surely become more and more defeated.

However, what happened after a certain period of time for you? Did you heal? Did you grow? Did you learn?

It can be hard to always hear that “everything happens for a reason” and “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” When we are going through some of the hardest times in our lives, there are just days that we want to tell those positive people to go jump off a building, am I right?

But…

The truth is, we have two choices.

 We can keep on keep’n on, and take that positive crap and apply it, OR we can drowned in our own sorrows, and suffocate in our own quicksand.

Most of us, most of the time, choose to LIVE, to keep on keep’n on, and to do our best until something shifts!

That’s what I am talking about. For me, I have been going through major transformations around my career. I have been in yoga teacher’s training, and about to begin Pilates teacher’s training. I am in a new country, and without knowing a sole here to begin with, I set out to continue creating and manifesting my dreams.

 I have been in this process for several years, but coming to Australia has been a process of uncovering and discovering more of my authentic passion, my unique gifts, and finding effective, creative, and inspiring ways to share my gifts with the world.

NOT AN EASY TASK, but one well worth the struggle. This desire to do this has called upon the Universe, to conspire and to co-create with me, so I can have everything I’ve asked for.

When we ask for what we want and we set our intentions, then our order is as good as placed. If we are unclear in the least bit, the Universe will have to continue getting more information from us in order to deliver exactly what we’ve asked for.

If there is anything in the Universe’s way of being clear about what we want, it’s because WE are unclear about parts of what we want.

 These are otherwise knows as BLOCKS. Therefore, the Universe will bring us opportunities to clear these blocks by creating circumstances, situations, and experiences that make us confront the areas of the orders we have placed, that we are currently unclear about.

For example, if you order a burger at a restaurant, and the waitress just writes ”Burger” down and hands it to the chef, the chef will send her back to you to find out, do you want cheese, how do you want it cooked, bun or no bun, what sides did you want with that, etc? Every time she asks you a question, and let’s say you don’t actually know what you want, you are going to experience extreme levels of discomfort, frustration, and you may even find yourself wanting to get the hell out of there.

It is never comfortable when we are being asked something we don’t have the answer to.

Every time something happens in our lives that is uncomfortable, it’s an opportunity to gt more clear and straight up with the Universe, about the order we have placed.

The Universe is helping us get more clear, to unblock us, so we can manifest our dreams with ease and grace. Does that make sense?

Lately, I have gone through phases of writing a lot, and phases of complete withdrawal from being visible. I have felt super friendly and social, and given my best efforts towards building new relationships, and then I’ve felt like isolating and in total fear of doing anything outside my comfort zone. Every single day has been a wild ride and I have literally had to learn to get present with myself, stay in the moment, allow myself to be imperfect, and trust my process.

EVERYTHING I have been through over the last 8 years, such as: healing from binge eating, overcoming drug and alcohol addiction, building my own personal training business, pursuing a writing, coaching, and speaking career, going through school to become a certified personal growth coach, moving countries, having to start all over again in many ways in Oz, finding a guy I really connected with and fell for, and then loosing him, living in 3 different states and 4 different cities within 6 months of being in Australia, and finally, going through intense training to become a certified international yoga teacher, has all been CRAZY CHALLENGING AND CONFRONTING. That said,  all of the ups and downs, ins and outs, trials and tribulations, joys and pains, were EXACTLY what I needed in order gain the level of clarity, humility, inspiration, motivation, direction, passion, connection, and drive I have today.

Everything you are going through is one of your greatest teachers. Some days you will not trust this, and you will even want to cuss at the idea. That’s ok.

 The only thing to remember is to STAY WITH IT MY FRIEND.  

Those who do not give up, who stay with their journey even in the darkest of nights, will rise up, and grow into strong, free, abundant, peaceful, happy, and healthy BEings. They will live their truth. We are all called to our highest path, but not all of us will answer the calling. When the phone rings…are you going to pick it up?

So, remember, life is not about having it all figured out, or never feeling scared or emotional, or in doubt.

No. Life is about feeling all of these feelings, and in the face of them, choosing to continue to follow your dreams anyway.

I am sending you all so much love.

xoxoxo Erin

Want to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready for change, serious about investing in yourself, and ready to work with a coach send me an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. Personal Growth Mentoring Program is an intense and highly effective way to release your mental, physical, and emotional blocks so you can finally live your dreams. It’s an investment in your health and happiness. Serious inquiries only.

Wow…what a concept right?

That’s right, begin BEFORE you know how it ends, IS what I am saying. Why?

Well as all of you know, I have done my very best to be open with you, to share my ups and downs with you, and to keep my heart as open and vulnerable to you as I know how on any given day. This has not always been easy.

We all go through certain changes and transitional phases that make it difficult to find the words to express what we are thinking and feeling.

I have been going through one of those phases these last few weeks. One of my goals with Erin Lanahan Method is to deliver daily love, wisdom, and empowering messages to as many people across the world as possible. When I go through healing periods that require me to turn inward, this tends to pull me away from writing and being visible. One of my struggles when I’m going through stuff like this, is that I don’t feel like I have much to offer anyone, or anything helpful to share. (not ideal thinking by the way!) This would appear NOT to be very supportive of delivering daily love, wisdom, and empowering messages to you through my daily practice of writing. Hmmmmm…therefore, we have a conflict don’t we?

I still don’t think I have the answer to that question to be honest. On one hand, I get pulled away from things to use my energy to heal, and therefore do not fulfill my writing goals. On the other hand, I gather new information, insight, internal guidance and inspiration EVERY time this happens. Therefore, every time I learn even more to trust myself and my process every step of the way.

This can feel SO hard when you’re in the middle of transformation. Just like the caterpillar, the little thing has no idea its turning into something with more color and with wings so it can fly! Imagine how it must feel as it’s half way in between being a caterpillar and a butterfly. Whether or not it doubts it’s process, we will never know. All we know is that is ALWAYS becomes a butterfly!!

In its process of just being itself, it teaches so many of us about how to fully and honorably embrace our transitions and transformations.

Unfortunately, so many of us feel guilty about not being able to perform at the level we consider to be acceptable, 100% of the time. We also don’t believe we have the right to share our success story until we have proven to ourselves and the world that we have succeeded. The problem here is, we have the potential to make PROGRESS every day, and that IS success!

Want to hear something ironic?

If we wait to tell our story, to share our love, to help someone else, to get into a relationship, to start eating healthy, to begin working out, until we have achieved a certain level of success first, then we cut ourselves off from the opportunity to create the happy ending we are waiting for. Therefore, we never end up sharing our story, giving and receiving more love, being of service to others, eating healthier, and achieving our perfect body weight. Do you see how crazy this is??

I am choosing to make progress every day, and to aim for my goals. I choose to redefine Success, by saying it means this:

Success- The willingness to follow the deepest calling in our hearts, and to work towards bringing our dreams into our life experience on a daily basis,  no matter how big or small the daily progress is.

I will commit to reminding myself that the progress I make one day will differ from another day. Whether it’s one phone call a day, meditating for 20 minutes, writing a blog, showing up to help someone else, spending 30 minutes brain storming, or doing all of those things in the same day, it is ALL equally successful.

So, how are you holding back in this moment, this day, this week, and in your life? What are you waiting for BEFORE you put yourself out there, take that next action step, make that phone call, have that conversation, ask that special someone out, tell someone you love them, or start making healthy life choices? Are you waiting to get to your happy ending BEFORE you give yourself the opportunity to share your vulnerable beginning, and authentic now? Believe me, we all LOVE every part of a story. Why should any of us not really do what we love and share it with thew world right now, regardless of where we are in our process? I want to hear from you. Send me an email at transform@erinlanahanmethod.com to share what you are going through.

If you or anyone you know, feels inspired to help Erin Lanahan Method deliver daily love, tools for living, and empowering messages to the world, please send me an email. I am currently looking to expand my team with excited and loving people who have a passion for sharing their life experiences and inspiring messages. You don’t have to be a professional writer! None of us can reach our greatest potential alone! Let’s do it together Thank you!

Here’s to your transformation through Energy.Love.Magnificence!

With all my love, respect, and support,

xoxo Erin

Want to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready for change. serious about investing in yourself, and ready to work with a coach send us an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. Life Coaching Program is intense and an investment. Serious inquiries only.

I want to talk a little bit about WHY it is so important to keep going, ESPECIALLY when it may feel the most challenging.

In my experience, when things get the hardest, it means we are the CLOSEST.

Hang in there just a little bit longer and you’ll see what I mean.

It’s funny, sometimes we will actually come through something pretty heavy, and then once we begin to feel light and free of it, it pops up AGAIN. It may pop up on your Skype Chat, your phone, your FB wall, when you’re out with friends, at work, at home, or somewhere else that you just so happened to be strolling along until…POW!

That’s how this awesome Universe works.

As we set our intentions for our lives and begin to get more and more clear about what we want, the Universe has no other choice but to answer our orders.

If we want more money, it will bring all of our money fears and insecurities to our attention. If we want to heal from a broken heart and find great love once and for all, it may throw our ex-lovers and relationship issues across our paths. If we want to loose weight, it may place us at lots of parties and events that serve lots of junk food.

What I am saying is this…

When you want something, you better be prepared to confront everything in your way of having that thing BEFORE it actually shows up for you.

This gets EXTREMELY challenging some days because it can feel like just too much to deal with at once. Yes?

BUT…

You HAVE to keep going!

Here’s 7 Reason’s WHY you have to keep going:

1) You’ve done so much of the work already.

Don’t quit before the miracle happens. So  many of us do. When things feel the most intense, it’s because you are busting loose. You are knocking down the walls of your own limitations and you are saying YES to a better life. Stay with it, for you are about to reap the benefits of all your patience and hard work.

2) Everything You Want Awaits You.

Have you ever noticed how people who get lots of money, popularity, success, good looks, etc, who haven’t matured to a point of being able to walk gracefully and humbly with their gifts, end up going crazy, becoming drug addicts or alcoholics, going in and out of abusive and unhealthy relationships, or lose everything in the end anyway?

Don’t be envious of others. Trust that you are going through a different process. What you WANT is to experience what those “things” symbolize. However, you must reach a certain point in your own emotional development to hang on to them anyway. It’s better to have to go through more and wait longer, if it means you get to create a life beyond your wildest dreams, that you will be comfortable living in and never have to lose due to your own lack of responsibility and ego mania.

Everything You Want Awaits You.

It’s just on the other side of the darkness. Go the distance, and the pot of gold will be revealed. You WILL go from the caterpillar, to the butterfly.

3) Your playing small is selfish.

Yep, damn straight. If you’re playing small, then I just called you out.

Stop being selfish.

Look, we are all guilty of this from time to time, so I am taking it upon myself to give you the kick in the pants that I sometimes need as well. Whether you believe me or not, we all need you to share your gifts, shine your light, and do what ONLY YOU can do. That’s why you are here! When one of us plays small, it’s like having only half of a puzzle piece. This means the whole puzzle has a hole in it, a place where it is lacking the full picture.

No one can do what you came to do. I could do the same thing you do, but your people aren’t going to hear it from me, because they can only receive it FROM YOU.

I had to learn this too. I used to think “Who am I to think I can be a writer?”  “What do I have to say that no one else is saying?” “How am I special?” Well…I AM, and SO ARE YOU.

Someone else can write on the exact same topic as me, but my people aren’t going to receive it from them, because they can only hear it, see it, and feel it when it comes from me.

Do you get what I am saying?

Each one of us has a responsibility to show up as the best version of ourselves, to serve the whole picture, and to therefore live an incredible life as a result, WITH everyone else!

4) You have no other option anyway.

This is the funniest part. The joke is on us.

If you don’t keep going, what will you do? If you think you can just end things, I am not sure it’s that black and white. Now this is just my belief, and we are all entitled to our own, but as far as I know, you will just come back here to work through the same stuff you are working through now. So you why not just buckle down and commit to your process this time around.

If you give up on your process you will become numb, shut down, and that means hanging the Out Of Order sign on your heart, your life, and on your WILL to be great. Isn’t that scarier than what you are feeling now?

To me, the thought of rotting away in my own fear is my worst nightmare. It seems very simple when you think about it. Just like a flower, or any living thing for that matter. We are made to grow, not shrink. We are meant to head towards the light, not question our ability to blossom and bloom. It’s our most natural flow to experience life to the fullest, so anything other than that goes against who and what we really are.

5) If you give up now, you’ll miss the creative ending.

It’s like going to a movie and walking out when the mystery, suspense, and anticipation reaches it’s peak.

When we feel these feelings in a movie, we don’t think to ourselves “Oh my God I cannot do this. I cannot handle this level of feeling.” NO. We refer to them as THRILLING. We love it when we get taken on a wild ride because we TRUST it isn’t the end of the world, and that we are going to be home, safe in our beds at the end of the day. So we stay with it…until that movie ends. Then we go home and make plans to see the next one, all in the name of fun and entertainment!

This is the same as life. See your suspense, anticipation, and mystery as a movie coming to a peak. Then stick around for the awesome ending you are creating, knowing that you will soon be preparing for the next great adventure to follow.

6) You will break your own heart if you give up on yourself.

We all know how badly it hurts to have a broken heart. You know that deep ache and pain you feel in the chest, the heaviness, the lack of will to go on? Why would you put yourself through that?

Seriously, if you give up now…YOU WILL BREAK YOUR HEART.

He, she, him, her, they, and them can abandon us, but we will always find our way UNLESS we abandon ourselves. YOU have the ability to be your greatest support or worst enemy. You can save your life or end it, all by how you choose to show up for, or reject,  yourself.

Why break your heart when you have the power to make it dance instead?

7) You have a story to tell.

Do you ever stop and listen to someone else? Did you ever consider that each and everyone of us has an amazing story to tell? The longer we stick around, the juicier it gets.

What story?

The story of our lives. The story of our loves, our losses, our wins, our pains, our fears, and our courage to overcome those fears.

Yes, YOU have a story.

You HAVE to keep going because someone, somewhere, some day, needs to hear your story from YOU.

I really hope you allow yourself to read over the 7 reasons WHY you have to keep going. Let them sink into your awareness, your consciousness, your thoughts and actions. Do not forget them my friends.

What are you questioning today? What is making you so sure you cannot go the distance? Can you just be a little softer, more gentle, and a bit more loving with yourself? Just for today?

I want to know what you are going through. Send an email to Erin Lanahan Method at transform@erinlanahanmethod.com to share your story with us.

I am sending you all so much love.

Remember, today is not the end of your life…it’s just the beginning.

Love Always,

Erin xoxo

Want to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready for change. serious about investing in yourself, and ready to work with a coach send us an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. Life Coaching Program is intense and an investment. Serious inquiries only.

Honesty…

Honestly, how honest are you with yourself and with others on a daily basis? My guess is that most people are only ever half-honest with themselves at best.

Our lack of honesty with others is not intentional most of the time, it’s just a repercussion of our inability to be honest with ourselves. The problem with this is,  we hurt a lot of people by default.

A lack of honesty exists only in the parts of ourselves that have not woken up from our slumber just yet. It is where we are still hiding in fear.

Why is honesty so important?

First of all, let’s be clear. When I talk about honesty, what I mean is the ability to have conscious thoughts, actions, and relationships. What I mean is to allow the real and raw expression of your deepest, most inner truth to do the talking AND the walking.

Do you know what that is? Do you know who you are, what you want, what you like, what your boundaries are, and what you’re worth? Do you have an understanding of how willing you are, or not, to be available for great love, great connection, great opportunities, and therefore an AWESOME life? Do you have unwavering respect for yourself, and are you willing to stand up for what you deserve?

I have been in a couple dating type relationships with people over the last few years who were stumped by me when I asked them certain questions. Apparently my inquiries called upon them to take a deeper look inside than they were ready for, and boy did they get triggered! I found myself having these experiences with them as a result of me needing to get more clear about their feelings for me. I wasn’t happy, but couldn’t understand why I couldn’t just let things be the way they were.

Based on how things were going on the outside, it all seemed like things should be working. However my intuition, my gut, and my highest awareness knew something wasn’t right and must be addressed.

Yep…there were DEFINITELY mixed signals I was denying.

THAT was my real and raw innermost truth, speaking to me, urging and encouraging me to be brave and follow what I knew and felt. This is always challenging because we doubt ourselves and we fear coming across as needy, demanding, or over analytical.  Am I right?

When I went to them, from as much love, openness, and honesty as I could, they jumped to the defense pretty fast. It’s as if all of a sudden I was the enemy trying to take away their freedom. But the TRUTH is, I was only asking them how they felt, so I could make the best choice for ME. I never asked them to change, or give me something they could not.

I didn’t want to be the center of their Universe, NO WAY and NO THANK YOU! I just wanted to know if they wanted to explore existing in the Universe WITH me, as partners.

They ummed and awed, and their discomfort was VERY clear. They didn’t know how they felt and they weren’t in any kind of place to know any time soon. So they got mad at me, sometimes nasty with me, and a little bit of sweet and vulnerable in between. But even still, they were unable to give me any clear answer about how they felt about me or if they wanted to create something with me.

Where did that leave me?

That left me to decided what was best for me, which in both cases was to walk away, as hard as that was for me at the time.

However, we cannot be with someone who is lacking in their own ability to be honest and clear with themselves, because there is no way they can be clear and honest with someone else, and the likelihood of them sending mixed signals and leading you on is VERY good.

However, that said, we must take full responsibility for our part in all things. If we are truly being honest with OURSELVES the whole time, we will know enough to not allow things to carry on as they are, falling down the rabbit hole of our own denial. Deep inside we always know the truth of the situation we are in. It’s just a matter of being strong enough to admit it to ourselves and then taking appropriate action.

Don’t wait for someone else to tell you what you already know. Why? It could take way longer than it should for you to get your SH*T together if you do this.

When we begin to live our lives from the truth we feel inside, we become more and more able to trust ourselves.

It is difficult to trust ourselves before we have taken the leap of faith, followed our intuition, and found out we were right! The more we do this, the more we grow to trust our truth to take care of us, and therefore the more honest with ourselves and others we become. Then, the flow of beautiful, authentic relationships and opportunities begin to blossom in our lives. We let go of what’s not good for us, and make room for all that is.

If you are in a confused place as well, being with another confused person may be cool for you right now. It might feel good, and you may prefer the lack of direction, clarity, and real connection. Hey, whatever floats your boat! Ultimately if it works for you, that is great!

For me, I am in a place in my life where I  am realizing that honesty is all there really is, and all I really HAVE, so it just doesn’t work for me to put myself in those kinds of scenarios. Although I must admit, they have certainly been AMAZING strengthening exercises for my honesty muscles!!

No matter what you are going through in your life, EVERYONE benefits by your ability to be brutally honest with yourself and therefore others. Why stay in unhealthy, unhappy, and less than ideal situations when your greatest, most awesome life and relationships await you??

Here are 3 reasons WHY honesty is all we really have anyway:

1) If the house isn’t built on steady ground, then the structure and future of its well-being will always be shaky.

In life, we WILL be confronted. Our relationships will kick up ALL our muck, our deepest fears, and our darkest insecurities, no matter how amazing the relationship is. This is the whole point of relationships. They are here to heal us and guide us towards our highest expression.

If we don’t have honesty, with ourselves and each other, we don’t have much to stand on. In order to get through the intense, yet transformational ride of relationships, we have GOT to connect to, and then from, our truest, most authentic selves first.

This is the same in jobs. If you lie to yourself and pretend you are happy doing something you know limits your bliss, then EVERYONE will feel that on some level. Most businesses don’t run as effectively and efficiently as they could BECAUSE the majority of the people working for it are denying themselves the gift of trusting their truth. So many of them are living in denial of who and what they really are, and sadly they are usually not even aware they are doing it. Not unless someone begins to call them out, and ask them questions. Instead of standing up in their lives and declaring what they deserve, they just take a seat and settle, until they get a glimpse of how the truth can really feel.

 2) The only thing that REALLY ignites our bones is the TRUTH.

There is nothing more terrifying, and at the same time nothing more EXHILARATING. Think about it, when do you feel the most alive? I bet it’s when your FEELING the most.  It’s when we hear or see something that wakes us up, that offers us a glimmer of hope for a better way, and that resonates with every cell in our bodies regardless of how resistant our minds are to it.

It’s like sky diving. Terrifying, exhilarating, the mind says HELL NO, but the heart and body say HELL YES. Which one do you listen to most of the time?

I am not saying we all need to go sky diving. I am personally still working through my own fears around trying this (although I’d like to). All I am saying is to take another look at your truth and then ask yourself who’s making the decisions in your life. Is it your fears or your truth?

3) We can “fall in love,” make a billion dollars, travel the world, build businesses, have lots of children, and achieve the perfect body, but if we do it from a place within ourselves that is not operating from pure honesty with ourselves and others, then the chances are, we will still not be happy with the results.

It may take longer to build your life and reach your dreams when you focus on your truth first. Since we live in a society where more is better as fast as you can, this can feel like an unrealistic attempt to make.

Hey, it’s your choice.

In my experience, real and raw joy is an expression of real and raw honesty. If you think you’ve experienced joy without honesty, believe me…you have NO IDEA what you’re missing out on. NOTHING can compare to the real deal.

So, can you begin to ask yourself some questions? Are you willing to explore your own heart, your mind, and reveal your truth to yourself and then shine it in the world? I am eager to hear the truth you speak. Please share it with us at Erin Lanahan Method by sending an email to: transform@erinlanahanmethod.com.

Remember, your truth is exactly what I need to you to give, and my truth is precisely what you came to receive.

The Truth Will Set You Free.

Sending you all so much love, an open heart, and an honest word.

xoxo,

Erin

Are you ready to live your life to the fullest? If you’re ready to transform your body, your relationships, and your life, you are serious about investing in yourself, and you are ready to work with a mentor, send us an email to transform@erinlanahanmethod.com. The E.L.M. coaching program is intense and an investment. Serious inquiries only.