I AM so grateful for the love and support of my communities.
I AM so grateful for the love and support of my partner.
I AM so grateful my mother is on her way to a full recovery.
I AM so grateful for all the doctors and nurses who took care of us.
I AM so grateful for my puppy Leti and all her cuddles and kisses.
I AM so grateful for my willingness to always, no matter what, find the insights, miracles, and magic in whatever is happening, because THIS is what saves me every time.
Greetings! I am back after taking last week off to tend to family matters. Mom went into the hospital and for a couple of days it was pretty scary and we didn’t know how things were going to turn out. This is exactly why I started this week’s article with gratitude. Because let’s face it, things could be so much worse, and they are not. In fact life is pretty amazing once we open our eyes and really see all that we have!
What are you grateful for?
I found myself going through a roller-coaster of emotions last week. Can you relate?
When it comes to a loved one, especially a parent, it is so tricky when their health begins to fail them. Sometimes it’s a result of their own lack of self-care, and other times it’s out of their control. Either way, they deserve our love and compassion.
But HOW?? How do we extend our love, open our hearts, AND have compassion for those who are sick and suffering when it interferes with our own lives or makes it difficult for us to take care of ourselves?
I know. I get it.
I LOVE my mother dearly, and there is nothing I want more than for her to feel loved and taken care of, and to have thriving optimal health.
AND…
I was angry, and at times, impatient.
Boy was this a wake up call for me.
I don’t want to be that person, that daughter, that lover, that friend. You know, the mean one. I want to be able to see beyond someone’s circumstances to their SOUL, and to extend my heart and compassion to them no matter what!
BUT…
In order to do that there are a few things we must practice:
Self Care, Compassion, and Humor are MIRACLE workers. And these 3 things had the power to shift the energy of the room in an instant!
Here’s what I mean:
Thank GOD I was able to stay mindful and to pay attention to the fear that was showing up for me and the ways in which my judgments and assumptions got in the way of my love and kindness. When that happens, I am NOT helpful to my mother and I feel YUCK on the inside.
So I made a commitment to myself that I would practice compassion, self-care, and humor. I agreed to stay connected to the lightness and to BE a true healer. A healer is the one in the room who who holds space for what is possible, who genuinely cares and extends compassion, and who holds the vision of what mom is capable of rather than what she can’t do right now.
And so far, this has worked miracles. Mom is still recovering, but so far she is doing GREAT!
I would love to hear from you! Have you been through something like this? How easily do you feel compassion for the sick and suffering? What practices do you put into place to be your best self in those situations? What are your insights and take-aways from life’s challenges?
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Much Love,
Erin
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Love you Erin, I too have just went thru a round with my dad in this area of life. It was a real eye opener. Not having allot of love communicated in our family and still to this day, it was so hard to be loving but so worth it. I learned tons about how I really felt on the inside about my father. I let go of allot of hurt, anger and hate after going thru this. Made me feel small to see how much I needed to grow and step up.
SO powerful WES! And thank you so much for sharing. We sure learn lot from each other hey? 🙂 Love you!